10 Marriage Blessings to Never Take for Granted
My husband and I celebrated thirty-six years of marriage this week. And I know our marriage blessings always far outweigh the hard times.
Still, sometimes we form a perspective through a lens of what’s wrong with the world and our lives.
So that makes it easy to draw attention to the weak spots in our marriage.
Then we forget the great blessings we receive from God in simply being married.
Maybe we can easily jot down what’s wrong in our marriage or what we want out of our marriage. Perhaps we find it difficult to complete a list of blessings.
Anybody relate? My hand’s raised.
But the most concerning thing is what I found as antonyms of “blessing.” According to synonyms.com the opposite of blessings includes: disapproval, curse, rejection, depreciation, negate, invalidate, dislike, boycott, and dishonor.
Now, take a look at synonyms for blessings: approval, acceptance, grace, support, reward, backing, mercy, and thanksgiving.
Yet, as soon as we said, “I do,” God placed a calling on our lives. Along with this calling, doesn’t it make sense to form our perspective through the lens of God’s grace and mercy, and His blessings?
As soon as we said, 'I do,' God placed a calling on our lives. Along with this calling, doesn’t it make sense to form our perspective through the lens of God’s grace and mercy, and His blessings? Share on XFriends, this includes the blessings in our marriage. So, let’s start with a list of 10 marriage blessings.
Wonderful Marriage Blessings
(1.) The blessing of oneness. To be one with our spouse is one of the great mysteries and rewards of marriage. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31 (ESV)
(2.) The blessing of togetherness. Let’s not take our marriage for granted. Think about how many women and men feel alone with no plus one. “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Mark 10:9 (ESV)
(3.) The blessing of friendship. The Lord created us as relational beings, first with Him, then others. Becoming best friends in marriage is without a doubt an epic blessing—never without a friend by our side.
The blessing of friendship. The Lord created us as relational beings, first with Him, then others. Becoming best friends in marriage is without a doubt an epic blessing—never without a friend by our side. Share on X(4.) The blessing of love. Remember these endearing expressions: My wife’s the love of my life. Or, I love my husband so much.
(5.) The blessing of family ties. Although bringing two families together after matrimony isn’t easy; and even though in-laws may see things differently than we do, this increase in family is meant to be a good thing…a built in support group.
Beautiful Marriage Blessings
(6.) The blessing of dependence. God created marriage as a mutual dependence, for husband and wife to complement one another.
(7.) The blessing of authenticity. If we can be who we really are around anyone, shouldn’t it be our spouse? Not only did the Lord create us for relationship, but also for authentic relationships—not having to put up a facade.
(8.) The blessing of vulnerability. My husband and I feel closer and more connected emotionally when we are vulnerable with each other. It’s an amazing blessing to be honest where we struggle and where we need help.
(9.) The blessing of support. Marriage is the place we are meant to find the ultimate support. Whether we need emotional, mental, financial, physical or other type of support, one of the greatest blessings in marriage is knowing who we can count on.
(10.) The blessing of sexual intimacy. This blessing directly points back to the first blessing, oneness. God created us for oneness in body, spirit, and soul. In body, our oneness includes sexual intimacy. Sex is a good gift, a great blessing given to us by the Creator. “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:5 (ESV)
The blessing of support. Marriage is the place we are meant to find the ultimate support. Whether we need emotional, mental, financial, physical or other type of support, one of the greatest blessings in marriage is knowing who we can… Share on XMake a List/Couples Devotions
And please remember, my list is not exhaustive. But neither are God’s blessings over our marriage.
Will you consider making a list of marriage blessings to keep in a journal or on a device?
Include my ten to build upon or start from scratch. Ask the Lord to reveal blessings to you and pray them over your marriage. Also, share them with your spouse as a time of couple devotions.
Perhaps our list will turn out longer than we ever imagined possible.
Note: Listing our blessings doesn’t mean denial. This article in no way implies to deny any abusive situations in your marriage. Seek out good biblical counsel with regards to protective measures for abuse.
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Happy Anniversary, Karen! As I read your list, I could identify with each blessing you described. Danny and I are a very fortunate couple, and we are well aware of that.
Blessings!
Thank you sweet, Martha. You and Danny are such a wonderful Christian couple.
As someone who lost a 15-year marriage, I understand the cost of losing (if ever had) that wonderful blessing of friendship with your spouse. Sometimes, we humans mistake lust for love. Something my second (and forever) wife shared with me many years ago is; “Love is what’s left when the lust has gone.” As I think you’ve met my Ms. Diane on social media, you can see why I wrote “God’s Gift” about her. Am sure Mr. Friday feels the very same way. God’s blessings sweet couple.
Your Diane is a gift and full of wisdom. I like to say, “What God made true about love, people made fake.” Glad your in such a wonderful marriage with such a wonderful woman of God! Blessings on you and Diane too!
Happy Anniversary, Karen! Such wise advice. Like J.D., I’ve learned a lot about marriage from past breaks, but thankfully, my husband and I will celebrate 31 years in October. I can testify that the only way a marriage can thrive is with Jesus in the center of it.
Thank you, Cathy and Amen! Our love story started with Jesus in the center and that’s what has helped us thrive instead of just survive! Appreciate you sharing your experience here! God bless!
Happy Anniversary Karen! My husband and I will celebrate 36 years together on December 12th! What a blessing this post is, I know am guilty of taking many of these for granted! Thank you!!
Hi Donna, yay for 36 years of marriage! It is easy to get comfortable and take these blessings and gifts from the Lord for granted. I pray the Lord reminds us how blessed we are!
Happy anniversary! We celebrated our 41st anniversary in December, and I can “Amen” all of these! Though I appreciate them all, I think the deep friendship we have at this stage of life is one of the best aspects of marriage. With all of our parents gone now, no one else on earth knows us like our spouse does. Years of highs and lows and everyday life has blended us together even more than on our wedding day.
Barbara, you have reached a marriage milestone! And I agree about the deep friendship. We are in that stage in life now too. Thanks for sharing and for the anniversary wishes.
Happy Anniversary! My husband and I have been married for over 42 years. We grow more in love every day.
Thank you, Melissa! Wonderful testimonial of your love for each other with the Lord as that third strand! God bless!
Great truth in your wonderful post. I have enjoyed the blessings of marriage for almost 37 years. Thanks for sharing.
Hey Yvonne, that’s great. You and your husband are similar to us in how you’ve shared so much of your life in ministry. God bless!
What a lovely reminder. I enjoyed those blessings for 40 years before my better half graduated to heaven. And I don’t take any of that time for granted!
Hey Ava, I’ve heard you share about your late husband on your blog. That must be hard and I’m sure you miss him. Thanks for sharing your 40 years of blessings!
Happy anniversary! You’ve compiled a wonderful list of blessings inherent in marriage, particularly Christian marriage with a God-honoring perspective. A Christian marriage includes commitment to one another, is intentional, and is shaped by Scripture. Our 44th anniversary occurs next month, and I agree with you that marriage is one of God’s greatest gifts!
Thank you, Melinda. Happy early anniversary to you and your husband. I liked how you note a Christian marriage is commitment to each other, intentional, and shaped by Scripture! Amen!
I love this celebration of the beauty of marriage!
It certainly is something to celebrate, Rebecca!
So good, Karen! I love the part esp. about friendship. My husband and I started as best friends and continue that today. The supportive foundation serves our marriage SO well!
Thank you, Jessica. I think being and staying BFF’s is one of the greatest blessings in marriage that helps connect us as a couple in all the other layers of a wonderful relationship.
This is great, Karen! My daughter is making a blessing scrapbook for her friend who is getting married. This is perfect for the newly weds as they start their lives together.
What a great idea for a couple soon to wed. I even love the name, “Blessing scrapbook.” Thanks for sharing that!
What a beautiful list, Karen. Happy Anniversary! 36 years certainly should be a celebration. I love what the Lord has shown you through your marriage. I am blessed in my marriage, as well. Last year we celebrated 30 years. I would add devotion, care and protection. My husband has lifted me up in love and in care through 2 very serious illnesses. He never thought that he would have to physically care for me in the ways that he does, but his dedication and willingness to provide fills my heart more and more every single day. God gave me the perfect gift.
Wendy, such a sweet love story. I know your story of illnesses from your blog posts. Your husband is a good man to love and care for you in such a devoted way. And I agree, devotion, care and protection are great to add to the list.
Wow, great post sister in Jesus-Yeshua Christ-Messiah Karen, Preach HIS WORD in SEASON and out of SEASON, Sing Glory Glory Hallelujah Amen Everyone!!
Happy Anniversary Karen and May our ONE TRUE GOD the HEAVENLY FATHER and HIS SON Jesus-Yeshua Christ-Messiah Bless you and Your Family members and Friends!!
Love Always and Shalom, YSIC \o/
Kristi Ann
Thanks so much, Kristi Ann. We are blessed and pray blessings over you and your ministry as well.
What a blessing just to read through the comments at this anniversary party! Next month, we will celebrate 31 years!
It was a great anniversary party, Michele. Hope yours next month is just as blessed!
Congratulations! Two are better than one. God bless!
Yes, Nancy! Thank you!
Karen, happy anniversary! thirty-six years is such a legacy for your family. Your ten blessings are spot on! I’ve found that being authentic with my husband has taken time to learn. I learned a lot aobut how to become more vulnerable and authentic with him in our early years, but even still, this is something I must choose. He is definitely my safe place.
Thank you, Jeanne. And I appreciate how you described vulnerability and authencity with your husband as a “safe place.” I like that. Grateful for what you add to the conversation!
Happy Anniversary! And what a great list you share. My husband has been such an invaluable help to me this past year in getting through a pandemic together. Adding that to our own list of private accomplishments in our marriage. 🙂
Lisa, thanks so much. And togetherness during a pandemic has taught most of us married couples deep lessons about each other and the support we have in a spouse.
Happy Anniversary! My husband and I will celebrate 42 years married this May. He is the best gift outside of my salvation that God has blessed me with. Wonderful list for us all to think on.
Beautiful way to describe your husband, Joanne, a gift from the Lord!
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