Why We Never Stop Pursuing our Spouse

There’s one thing about a love story that’s my favorite part, pursuing one another.

It goes something like this.

Guy meets girl. A mutual interest piques. So the couple dates and spends time together. 

Love grows and blooms until the storyline reaches an apex, “Will you marry me and be mine forever?” 

But there’s something we often overlook in the best love stories: both guy and girl actively pursue each other.

Most of our own love stories followed the same narrative. During the dating period we pursued and loved our spouse with all our energy and they likely reciprocated. Think back, this was my experience, was it yours?

Sadly, once we are married, the pursuing usually comes to a screeching halt. But that’s not what God intended.

What Pursuing Means

What does pursuing really mean? Take a look at these definitions:

Pursuit – interests and attempts to achieve something. (Collins Dictionary)

Pursue – to follow in order to overtake; to engage, chase. (Merriam-Webster)

Pursuit – an effort to secure or attain. (Dictonary.com)

Pursuit – the act of striving to gain or accomplish something. (The Free Dictionary)

Now that we see what pursuing means, it gives us insight into the reasons why it usually stops after we marry. Notice the words above: achieve, secure, attain, gain, and accomplish.

When the pursuing ended with what we wanted, we got the guy or girl, what reason is there to pursue now?

Why Pursue Now

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