10 Things I Wish I’d Known on My Wedding Day

A floral veil cascaded past my waist.

Lace sleeves extended in a V-shape across my hands.

My neckline sported a delicate strand of pearls from my maternal grandmother. 

I walked down the aisle to the hope of always and forever. 

Altough our pastor completed pre-marriage counseling with us, nothing really prepared us for marriage struggles. 

So come along as I take a look back to discuss what I wish I’d known the day I said, “I do.”

And see if any of these resonate with you or offer you hope.

(1.) I wish I’d known to communicate in an authentic and vulnerable way. 

Men and women communicate differently. And our temperaments and past relationships have shaped us.

Learning all the differences is key. But I wish I’d also realized the importance of learning to be authentic by showing a vulnerable side.

After “I do”: Share how you are vulnerable at work, in other relationships, online and with your marriage. Get it all out in the open and be the real you.

(2.) Ask for and give forgiveness. 

I wish I’d known how forgiveness releases us from the shackles unforgiveness places on us. “Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” Colossians 3:13 (ESV)

In Jesus, forgiveness has been freely extended to us for our sins and missteps against God.

After “I do”: We ask our spouse to forgive us for our missteps and freely offer it when our heart bears wounds.

In Jesus, forgiveness has been freely extended to us for our sins and missteps against God. After "I do": We ask our spouse to forgive us for our missteps and freely offer it when our heart bears wounds. Share on X

(3.) Pray over my marriage. 

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